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Lady Links, This is a Woman

Lady Links 8.2

It’s my half-birthday today! Sometimes people give me a weird look for saying that but dammit, I’m gonna have as many birthdays as possible. CAKE.

CAKE

~TIAW on Tumblr and Pinterest.
~”The truth is many women will never regain the shape they had pre-pregnancy and there is nothing wrong with this.” <-- EXACTLY.
~So it turns out that making people feel like shit isn’t actually the first step to making them want to be healthy. WHO KNEW? /snarkasm
~This is a cool thread that poses the question, what would famous classical works of art look like if we applied today’s photoshopping techniques to them?
~Lululemon isn’t making plus-sized yoga pants to be KIND to plus-sized women. After all. They wouldn’t want to insult us by charging more and since that is the only option…
~Here’s a cute song that will make you realize that you actually have a lot more in common with velociraptors than you realized.
~Amanda Palmer is awesome. As usual.

Lady Links, This is a Woman

Lady Links 7.26

How long does it take to recover from a week like last week? I mean. Really. I’m still too flighty and distracted to get anything done. So here are the links I have for you. I didn’t make you a doodle this week. I’m sorry. Or maybe you’re welcome. One of those.

~TIAW on Tumblr and Pinterest.
~Here’s a cool video from the PBS Idea Channel about BMO from Adventure Time and what she represents for feminism. Hint: Adventure Time is fairly awesome.
~You need to see this. And share it with everyone.
~This article has a perhaps misleading headline, but is overall very SOAM-ish about Kate’s after-pregnancy body. And Kate? I think I love her.
~”No, I do not have something better to do with my time than try to make the world a better place for girls and women.”

Lady Links, This is a Woman

Lady Links 7.12

my cat is totally over the patriarchy

~TIAW on Pinterest and Tumblr.
~We’re not fat enablers. We’re new shoe hoarders. OK. Well, it’ll make sense once you read the article.
~MOST AWESOME 12 YEAR OLD.
~How to Live With Anxiety. I agree on basically all the points here. Fantastic article.
~The most incredible selfie I will probably ever see. This woman took photos of herself just after her baby was born. JUST after. Like before birthing the placenta. They are bloody and messy and holy crap they are beautiful. You can translate the page at Google Translate.
~We’ve all seen those images that show us what a woman would have to look like if she had Barbie’s measurements, but I like this project which shows what Barbie would look like if she were an average woman.
~Here’s a pretty incredible article about the archetype of Manic Pixie Dream Girl. It goes into what’s wrong with so much of Story these days, and how we, as women, try to find ourselves in characters. I’m tall and not at all petite and when I was younger I would have done anything to have been a Manic Pixie Dream Girl. But, looking back, maybe it’s better that I didn’t fit that physically. Maybe it’s better I couldn’t find a group to fit into. Cause I found Me instead.
~Dustin Hoffman will make you love him more than you adready do.
~The Beauty Industry would like you to remember how disgusting you are as a human animal and here can they help you with that?

Just Life, Lady Links, This is a Woman

What today has been like so far.

So my day has been like this:

1. Wake up to an email from the BBC about doing a story. What? That’s normal.
2. Make coffee to try to become human for aforementioned interview.
3. Do interview.
4. Think coffee is empty and go to check cup but instead spill coffee all over everything. Also: waste coffee.
5. Cry. I am so tired. This week has been so busy and I have so much to accomplish in the next hour and I didn’t have all the caffeine. Cry.
6. Get a call from a local news station still in SOAM mode but it wasn’t about SOAM at all. WON TICKETS TO COMIC CON INSTEAD.
7. Did I mention I started my period? Cause this is all just kind of a lot to handle.

This is what my day has not been like:

1. Having the week’s Lady Links already prepared and ready to go.
2. Sitting down and having time to write up this week’s Lady Links.
3. Finishing a whole cup of coffee before noon.
4. Making a pretty little picture to post with this story so that I can be, or at least look like, a Responsible Blogger.

Well. You know my motto: Thank god I’m cute.

Lady Links, Social Justice, This is a Woman

Lady Links! (6.28)

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So that was a fairly epic week, no?

The US Supreme Court made some big decisions. One of them sets us back about 50 years in terms of racism allowed by the law (what? no. really). So that’s bad. The other one makes us somewhat closer to even with many other countries in terms of laws allowing gay marriage. So that’s good.

And then this thing happened in Texas. A thing where a woman (literally) stood up for what she believed in for twelve hours. She was constantly harassed about whether or not she was following the law. When a second woman tried to speak her own voice she was ignored repeatedly until she asked the question, “at what point must a female senator raise her hand or her voice to be recognized over her male colleagues?” And that? Was the beginning of something beautiful. It was about 15 minutes to go before Davis’ filibuster killed the anti-abortion bill when Van de Putte poised her question and all the women in the building (and probably many of the 170,000 people watching it stream live) burst into cheers and screams and chanting for twenty full minutes. When the republicans tried to silence Davis, the people took up her cause. And then, once they finally quieted down after the deadline, the republicans voted anyway. Because fuck the laws we are here to protect that’s why. What they maybe weren’t aware of was the 170,000 people watching it stream live. The hypocrisy kills me. I think, if justice is to be done, they should be given whatever punishment they deserve. I don’t expect justice to be done, though.

Why are we still living in the dark ages? I mean, really.

It’s like Paula Deen’s thing this week. She keeps going on and on and giving these weak apologies and excuses and “reasons” without ever actually facing the fact that she is, in fact, behaving in a racist way. It’s like, if no one’s getting lynched anymore that means racism is done. In all honestly, that’s how I used to feel about feminism. As a kid I didn’t see it. Women could vote now. We had the Equal Pay Act. We were allowed to become astronauts or Supreme Court justices. Feminism: Accomplished! Right? It wasn’t until I got older (and probably also that the world got smaller) that I was able to really see how things are. But I AM a woman. It’s easier to see discrimination when you are the one facing it. Paula Deen isn’t able to face her racist words and actions because she’s white and because she sees racism as this archaic thing that people don’t do anymore cause we all use the same drinking fountains now. She can’t see – perhaps because of the environment in which she lives – that she is still perpetuating racist ideals. But racism is more than just those clear symbols we grew up knowing were (or grew to know are) wrong.

Basically what I am saying is that racism and sexism and homophobia don’t always look the way you think they look. The old criteria were just the outer layer, the easy part. Now we have to really use our hearts and our minds and deeply think and deeply feel our way to equality. And that’s hard work.

Blah blah blah. On to the links. I mean the other links.

No, wait I’m not done yet. I can’t get over the blatant disregard for ACTUAL LAWS that happened there in Texas. They LIED. They CHANGED the time stamp to make it look like they passed it before the deadline. THEY FUCKING LIED. And when they were caught, they were all, “Heh. Oops. Our bad.” And that’s basically it. What we should have heard (at the very, very least) was, “Wow. You’re right. We let our passion over losing get in the way of our jobs here. We fucked up. Badly. There is honestly no way to fully apologize for how we betrayed all of our constituents. You all trusted us to work within the laws we, as a state, have a greed upon, and we completely and utterly did the opposite of that. We have learned our lesson. In the future we promise not to let our feelings get in the way of our morality. We are so, so sorry. And we know that apology isn’t enough, but we hope to show you in the future how we will stick to this promise if you let us.” And then the people of Texas should be all, “We accept your apology,” and then vote them out at the very first opportunity. At the very, very least. And this just addresses the actual lies and clear violation of the laws, not all the shady-but-not-technically-illegal stuff that also happened. How do people live with themselves? How do people continue to vote for this party? Because the thing is that I am not anti-republican by any means, but I am absolutely anti-asshat, and too many republicans in office ARE asshats.

Ok now I’m done.

~TIAW on Tumblr and Pinterest.
~You are loved. Even by your dentist.
~This is something I always wanted to do for SOAM, but I never trusted myself enough as a photographer. What a beautiful book. I am so glad it exists.
~This isn’t about body image. It’s about women in a sense, but really as more of a part of humanity. But it’s still really fucking cool. Scientists have long believed that some people (mostly certain women) have the ability to see more colors on the spectrum than the rest of us. They’ve finally found a woman who proves their theory.
~Here’s a pretty empowering post relating what happens when a random asshole guy tries harassing the wrong (actually the right) woman. (But I have to ask. How do people just randomly text people? I mean. How did he know he was texting a woman? I don’t get it. Please explain to this old lady.)

Lady Links, This is a Woman

The So Far Still Un-Renamed Weekly Awesome

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Today is the Summer Solstice (for those of us in the northern hemisphere, that is – it’s midwinter down south) and my family and I will celebrate by watching the sunset at the beach. The beginning of our trek into winter, when the Earth wobbles back away from the sun. In our particular area of the world, it’s still very much springtime (if overcast days signify springtime. I don’t really know what season to call this, actually). We won’t get the heat of summertime until the fall. Seasons are confusing for us, OK?

Wow. That paragraph devolved quickly from musings on spirituality and celestial events to defensiveness about our yearly climate. Let’s just forget this happened and get on to the Lady Links.

LADY LINKS. I might have just renamed the Weekly Awesome, you guys. LADY LINKS.

~TIAW on Pinterest and Tumblr.
~This is a really powerful and heavy article about Don Draper’s rape on Mad Men. I don’t mean that he raped someone. I mean that he was raped. If you don’t read this one, at least read the two articles linked to The Good Men Project where two male rape survivors talk about their rapes.
~This one was hard to take. I mean. LLOYD DOBBLER WITH A BOOM BOX. But, if I am going to be totally (and painfully) honest with myself, I had to admit that it’s a little bit stalkery. *sigh*
~VERY cool interview about feminist porn.
~How to start loving your vagina. <--Best article all year. Share it with EVERYONE YOU KNOW. ~I've probably shared this one before, but it bears repeating. How to talk to little girls.

Happy Summer (or Winter) Solstice! I hope you have a fabulous weekend!

Lady Links, This is a Woman

The As-Yet-Officially-Un-Renamed Weekly Roundup of Women’s News

Well. That’s a name. Of sorts. Want to help pick a new name for what was formerly called the Weekly Awesome? Click here.

awesome formerly known as weekly

~TIAW on Pinterest and Tumblr.
~This is kind of old news (I’m kind of behind on Awesome stuff so a few of these are old news) but I’m sharing it in case you haven’t heard it yet. Sometimes I feel voiceless in this world. I’ve boycotted Nestle for years, but they don’t care. But sometimes – hopefully more and more often – companies listen. And, in this case, Facebook also had to listen. And it’s about damn time.
~Another one on Facebook and misogyny. Also with an awesome ending.
~Here’s an interesting article from NPR about fat-shaming and career/higher education options.
~Remember that one Dove ad a few weeks back where the women described themselves to a sketch artist? XOVain decided to do something similar and got very different results. Now, I do this this was all somewhat intentionally skewed – and so was the Dove one for other reasons – but, if nothing else, it’s SO refreshing to hear women speaking about themselves with such positivity. LOVE.
~What better way to fight misogyny than with snarkasm? I give you Forehead Tittaes, a “product” “endorsed” by Marion Cotillard.
~Last one today. Patrick Stewart. That is all I need to say.